One of the scariest prospects in a relationship is how to impress your in-laws. You may actually become a nervous wreck the first time your fiancé says the words “I want you to meet my parents.” Immediately, you may just assume they will not like you, especially if your intended husband has a very close relationship with his mother. Will she think you’re good enough for her son? Will she see you as competition in some way? Those are valid questions but ones that you really should not spend a lot of time stressing over.

Gather Knowledge

One of the first things you need to do when you know that you may be attempting to impress your in-laws is learn everything you can about them right down to the little things. For example, if you tend to use swear words without thinking and you know this offends them, you’ll want to be watching your language carefully while visiting them. Maybe they’re religious but you aren’t. Avoid making the first few visits on a Sunday or whatever day they happen to attend church. You won’t be put in the uncomfortable position of turning down their invitation to go to church with them. Basically, stay away from triggers that could leave a negative impression.

Don’t Push Buttons

When you know the impending visit is going to take place, dress to impress your in-laws. Make them see you as a nice and tasteful woman who will do their son proud. Never, ever make disparaging remarks about their son. Speak only highly of him. Nothing wins over your intended’s parents faster than a woman who truly loves their son. This doesn’t mean you should be all over each other the entire visit or make out on the living room sofa in front of them. But there are subtle ways to let them know just how much this man means to you.

A Little Flattery Never Hurts

If your in-laws are smart people they’ll see right through any false efforts you make to flatter them. Therefore, if you’re trying to impress them, make your flattery subtle enough that it sounds sincere. If you’ve been invited for a meal, be sure to find at least one dish that’s being served to compliment. You may even go so far as to ask for the recipe. This can often get you a lot of Brownie points because it shows that you’ll be cooking for their son and taking care of him the right way. If they have a lovely home, don’t hesitate to tell them you think so. They’ll appreciate the fact that you noticed.

Be Appropriate

It’s perfectly acceptable to be yourself even when you’re trying to impress your in-laws. If you present a false persona it will all come out eventually anyway. But there ARE things you can do that will leave a good feeling with them. Dress appropriately, smile often, and speak in nice tones. Let these people get to know the real you but maybe just a little at a time.