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Arranged Vs Love Marriage
Marriage is perhaps the most celebrated social institution. Every girl grows up with a dream of getting the best partner in life and living happily ever after. But the million dollar question is – Who will decide who your Mr. Right will be? Is it the individual herself or is it the family that collectively has to take a decision? There has been an old debate that continues unending that what lasts longer – Arranged Marriage or Love Marriage? Supporters of both the views have forwarded their points but the battle continues each claiming their own view on the mantra of successful marriage. Arranged Marriage Arranged marriages happen all over the world and more so in the conservative societies which emphatically include Asian societies. The parents of the boy or the girl search for a suitable match for their progeny based on several criteria such as caste, religion, family background, education, financial stability, tradition, etc. In an arranged marriage, the responsibility of a successful or unsuccessful marriage lies with three units – the couple, the girl’s parents and the boy’s parents. PROS More chances of harmony – there are more chances of harmony between the bride and the bridegroom since they are perfectly matched in terms of most of the important things of life and therefore they understand each other well. There are no surprises and shocks since they have a fair idea of each other’s family background and upbringing. Parental support – When parent’s consent is also involved, parents offer unconditional support to the newly weds in times of trouble. They take the full responsibility of any differences whatsoever happening between the two and take a personal interest in their harmony. Social Acceptance – Though the times have significantly changed, there is still more social acceptance for couples going in for arranged marriage in some societies. Love Marriage Marital bliss that is formed on the basis of love alone is the concept of love marriage. Love is blind and the marriage more so happens without considering any other thing like culture, education, age, financial and social compatibility etc. the couple see each other, spend time together and understand each other and finally when they think that the right person is here, they marry. The consent of the parents takes a backseat here. If you find yourself comfortable in this category, you will probably want to choose the best suitable partner for you in order to avoid regressions later. But let us equally respect the fact that getting what you want is not always easy but nonetheless can be achieved with some worthy efforts to attract your ideal man and keep him craving for more. However, in a love marriage the responsibility of the success or failure of the marriage lies solely on the couple. PROS Love is The Foundation - Unlike arranged marriages that start to thrive on common platforms, a love marriage is founded on love for each other. Whatever are the differences in terms of religion, education, culture, family background, caste etc., the couple takes it in their stride and the love helps them take the normal course of life. There is no external pressure to keep the marriage going except the willingness from the couple. No Interference – In love marriage, there is complete freedom as the couple enjoys their privacy and freedom to resolve their internal differences. There is no poking of noses in the matters that relate to husband and wife only. The best part of this debate is that there have been innumerous living examples that support the view of both the sides. Though some people think understanding is the key in a successful marriage, others leave it on destiny.
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