What To Do If You Are In Love With A Married Man?
If you are dating a married man, it is more likely that your friends have advised you to put your affair with a married man to an end. The reason is justifiable. A woman loving a married man is more likely to suffer from emotional stress. For one, it is difficult to have an affair with somebody who has had marital vows with another. Two, women having an affair with married men are also more likely to just being used. Statistics have even showed that there are very few men who leave their family for another woman.
Lest if you have already considered everything and still conclude that you love that man and can barely live without him, then it’s the time to act. More often than not, it happens that your man keeps swinging between his family life and you and unable to take a concrete decision. If you are determined and really want to attract this man towards you no matter what, Bob Grant’s "The Woman Men Adore...and Never Want to Leave" is a million dollar deal for you.
Here are some things that you need to do if you are in love with a married man:
Consider the pros and cons of the relationship. It is important that you do some evaluation to assess the benefits and disadvantages of the relationship. You might be hoping that your man will leave his family for you so you two can be together happily but what about the other people who will be hurt because of your affair with a married man? Think about the family and children who will be hurt if they will be taken for granted just because of you. It would be better to make the sacrifice yourself than seeing another family being broken because of an immoral affair with a married man.
Assess if the man you are going with really loves you. You might be thinking that you want to pursue the relationship because you and your man are in love with each other but if your man truly loves you, will he not think the best for you? Your man knows the consequences of the relationship. He knows that your family and friends will detest you. He even knows that you can be expelled from your job on moral grounds of having an affair with a married man. A man who truly loves you will not bear the thought of you going through all these sacrifices. Assess whether the man you are going with is pursuing the relationship because he loves you or he just wants to take advantage of you.
Think about your future. Do not waste away a life for a man who does not care what will happen to you as a result of having an unacceptable relationship with him. Remember not to limit yourself on one married man because there will be plenty of opportunities for you to meet more eligible guys. You deserve a guy who can truly and morally love you.
give me pleasure cause me so much pain
hi i am sey.been inlove with this guy who is married... he was helping me in everything i dont know what to do i love him and i cant live without him i tried to stay away from him but he keep coming back to me
#10 - sweet loving girl - 07/11/2012 - 07:50
a married man with several mistress
I have been dating this married man for several years. He never mentioned to me that he has a wife and a child. I automatically found out from some one. since Makrch I found out beside his wife he also has several mistress out there plus myself. Recently he was acting so different stop kissing me in the public then he used the excuse because I was annoying him to keep asking him if he has a new mistress and then he request for a broke up. What can I handle to leave him.
#9 - Linda - 07/10/2012 - 06:40
Run married men are users
I was with a married man for a year he told me he loved me couldnt live without me had to see me sang me songs oh the BS that came outta his mouth. He was my first bf back when we were teenagers. Than in March 2012 I had my good guy friend pretend he was my bf and trough facebook I had him tell my married mans wife and family everything and showed them pictures of us together. Well he ran with his tail between his legs I didnt do it to hurt anyone just to let her know her hubby was a lieing bag of crap! I kinda got a feeling towards the end of the affair he was messing with someone else. so karma lol but I tryed ending it many times and like alot of yous he would pull me back with i gotta see you I love you so much my heart is broken wow I think they all use the same line. So ladies run far away don't be used by these lieing cheats cause the wife has no self worth at all and they take them back and make you look like you raped them and made them date you for a year. My thing was I didnt take a vow with her he did. But the wives are so dumb they think he wont do it again cause he loves her, well they need to wake up because hello he lied to you and your children to have the affair he will lie to save his house his money his rear. Mine lied and said when he said he loved me he ment when we were kids lmao really i have 2 old cells with over 2,000 messages on them saying how he loves me can't be without me. wants to be with me but is affraid she will get everything hes worked for for 27 yrs. And he was so mad if I hung outwith my best guy friend vinny who turned him in. I will tell you ladies if he loves you tell his wife or have one of your friends tell her than you will get your answer and see that your being used
#8 - sandilee67 - 06/05/2012 - 17:47
I am currently dating a married man, but it get hard sometimes because I want him to be mine and mine alone. I mean that when we are together he is so sweet, kind, gentle, and respects my feelings. I know that he is married because he told me upfront but I didn't care at first but now it is getting hard for me to accept that. Now he tells me that he (loves me). What should I do about it.
#7 - christina - 06/01/2012 - 07:59
Dating a married man
I need advice I'm a single parent of four and I'm currently dating a married man for about four years. I know he has no intentions on leaving his wife but he says he loves me and I love him. At times I know he can't be there for me like in holidays and other occasions he helps me with my bills buy the kids school clothes and all the food for the house and anything extra I need he helps but I feel I deserve more. I'm praying for my own man someone I can grow with and have one more child. I know this man is not right for me i am a good woman who deserves a good man and a helpmate and most guys I meet doesn't have nothing and don't want nothing so I guess that's y I still continuing to deal with mr. Wrong please wrong
#6 - Ms.t - 05/22/2012 - 08:14
i cannot deny 2 years back i fell in love with a married man,he's the first man i love more than my previous boyfriend i knew our relationship is not going anywhere.till on 17/07 he had mention break up,at that point i was upset but have 2 accept that as he couldn't play the stakes too high.i've decided 2 stop falling in love with a married men,as it's not worth & it's risky.
#5 - J - 05/11/2012 - 11:16
I really need your help and advise. Am having an affair with a married man and i have been in a relationship with him for more than 5 years. He is too old for me but ignored all these side effect and felt strong love for him.
He stays far away from me; i live in Africa and he lives in Canada. He often comes to Africa like 4 times a year and spends like 2 to 3 weeks. I now need ma only man, am tired of having strange relationship with this man and the single guy also does not show some actions, signs of love to me, he loves once in a while, i don't know what to do and am tired of ma self, ma life. I really need to have a family, have kids.
What should i do? I want to forget the man totally and i don't where and how i should start by cancelling this relationship. I will appreciate if you support me in this situation.
#4 - Angelique - 04/23/2012 - 07:24
I'm currently having an affair with a married man, I knew he was married when I met him, I didn't care, I was so focused on him and his total desire for me that nobody else mattered, I feel pretty selfish now. At first he showered me with loads of compliments and couldn't got an hour without texting me or emailing me, he couldn't go a few days without seeing me. He then got scared, said all he was thinking about was me,so he reduced contact, he made it clear when we met that he would never leave his wife and children and I respected that. He loves his wife, he says he loves me too. The reduced contact is all down to him feeling overwhelmed (his words) but I suddenly feel played. I have ended it so many times but he keeps talking me back into it. I can't move on. I spend lonely nights thinking about him with his wife while he is a very happy content man. I've tried dating but I sit there looking accross the table thinking I want him, not you and so I never take it further. I feel that karma is making its mark on me, I did this to his wife, I sleep with her husband, I thought I was the special one, after all, he loves spending time with me but all I am is an escape from the tedious life of marraige but I'm hooked and hurt! Being with a married man is no fun, it may seem that way at first but I only see him once every couple of weeks now and that is usually for about 3 hours, if I'm lucky. I get so excited and am on a high before he arrives, love it when he's here, then I'm miserable when he leaves until the next time I see him. Wish I had the strength to say goodbye, for good!
#3 - Louise - 02/01/2012 - 10:05
Dating a married guy
I have personally been in a relationship with a married man and I've gone through the same phases like most of you writing here do now. And because he left his wife and child for me and not by coincidence, but because I worked towards this goal, I want to share my story with you, all the women dating a married guy - you can read it here http://thelovepr.com/books.html
Good luck :)
#2 - The Love PR - 09/13/2011 - 09:40
Please tell me- are we living the 21st century? What business is it of anyone's who you are having an affair with? How can you be fired from your job for having an extra marital affair? People - get over yourselves!
#1 - Amelia - Johannesburg - 06/04/2011 - 18:19