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Boys are not really looking for attractive girls. They look for girls they will be proud to show to their families. Being attractive is only secondary traits but the inner attitude will be the deciding factor.
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They do not love to see girls who show their desire. He will love it more for those girls that catch their eyes and have a good personality. Attractiveness will never be their utmost preference unless they are not very serious about the relationship. Many Women in successful relationship have attested “The Woman Men Adore… And Never Want To Leave” as their mantra for a blissful and contend love life.
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If a guy likes or is infatuated towards you, chances are they will forget about their feelings if they were not able to know you personally. They look more in their group of friends.
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Some of the guys don’t like fashionable type of girls they would like more those who are smart and simple. Guys look you and they will not get away from you.
A guy doesn’t bothers if you are short but it is a concern to him if you are fat. They look for those girls who are disciplined enough to look presentable.
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To laugh behind the guys back are not so cool for them, they get irritated by that joke. They will be looking at you with discontent.
They may laugh and joke with you a lot in a bar but they would not want girls who often do drinking and smoking. They will look for those girls that can take away their vices.
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They like constant communication to the girl they like. Calling a guy in their house will not look cheap but rather remarkable for him.
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They don’t like girls who are late. They may actually be nice but is very angry deep inside. This will be a turn off for most guys.
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They would prefer a girl who has poised ways of caring about herself and do not like those girls who seem to be careless. Guys respect girls who are like that.
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They do not like girls who are stronger than they are.
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They would love girls who cook but not necessarily the best food. They tend to look for their mom’s way in the girl.
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They will love it if you can have a good relationship with his mother.
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They love girls who give time to listen to their stories. Listening is very important aspect of any relationship.
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A boy does not particularly like a girl who is very arrogant. Boys will like you more if you are friendly and matured in your principles. They will look highly on you if he can exchange conversation with you and the talk is so smooth going.
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They do not like girls who do not use perfumes as bad odor is a he turn off; they are very particular if other boys are looking at you.
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A boy loves the girl who trusts him and will not believe the words of other people until he explains the situation.
The 22 year old and 20 year old... Are both like Brothers, to eachother. Or, were... I didn't come between them! Time did. The 22 Year old was like a father to me... He and I have a lot in common, and I even call him "Papa", 'cause he is like a father from another universe. Buuut he just admitted to me that he's had deep hidden feelings for me for a while. That he loves me... After he heard the 20 year old and I have been talking and doing stuff together. Which, another brother-like figure of his, 23, broke up with me for no reason... But it feels like he stepped aside for the 20 year old to get at me. He had a nasty break-up with his 3 year long girlfriend, and I was there to comfort him... And I talked him out of suicide a couple times. That's when the 23 year old broke up with me, and after a while, the 20 year old started talking to me again. He then told me he wanted to get to know me better... He said he has wanted to for a while. Even with his previous girlfriend, after his Bro introduced him to me and his other bro (Who hates my guts for not getting mad...) he was fascinated... And wanted to know more about me. We are alike in so many ways. I played oblivious for a while, acting like I didn't know what he meant, and we hung out... We were almost inseparable. He was clinging to me, and when we hung out for a week straight he admitted he loved me... That being months ago, I am still on the fence. You see, I've been hurt... A lot. One man even lied about his identity, and other things. He said he loved me, and then said he was going on a trip for a weekend... I waited 2 weeks for him to come back. I got an email from his "Friend" telling me he got into a bad car accident, and that he was in a coma, with bad brain damage... It was devastating. The "Crash" was far away, as was the hospital, so I couldn't go visit. For months I was emailing the friend... Then when I was hanging out with my friends, I saw my love's Exgirlfriend. She was friends with my friends... So they talked. And she had said he hadn't broken up with her, and they were still together, and that the man whom I was seeing, wasn't even him... Then the truth came out. He lied about the car crash, to get away from his identity lie... He said his feelings weren't a lie, and that he emailed me to check if I was okay... I didn't really believe him, and I wasn't okay. I actually think a bit of my brain died the day after I found out, because I haven't felt the same warmth in my heart since that, I've never loved someone so much... And so, because of that, I've been scared to love ever since. Hence, I am on the fence. All 3 boys are extreme sweethearts... Unlike most girls here raving about a boy's looks, whatever, they don't matter to me. I am afraid of damaging the already damaged, here... The 22 year old has had absolute horrible girlfriends before, that were... Oh my god. Rude, mean, neglectful... I am different for him, but I don't want to hurt him... The 20 year old has had good girlfriends, but since his love broke up with him after 3 years, because she "Didn't want to be with him anymore", and I had to talk him into living best I could. I am different for him, as well. I am scared to hurt such a beautiful heart... And the 19 year old is young... I doubt he really feels anything, but there is that lingering thought... He has suicidal thoughts, as well, and told me I am one of the reasons he is sticking around, despite all the crap he is taking from others... Again, I don't want to hurt him.
There is also a hidden point on this love-Rectangle, a best buddy of mine came out with it and said that when he breaks up with his girlfriend, he would ask me out. Because I think a lot like him, and he really likes that... But he is in New York, and I am in Michigan. But he isn't a pressure, yet... But I fear he will be, and I will lose my friend. He is afraid of losing "one of his closest friends", too, but that time will come when it comes.
Besides being scared of hurting them, or choosing the one that would not make me happiest, I am scared of being hurt, myself... I am autistic, and suffer from extreme anxiety, so things being routine, normal is kind of a thing. If something changes... I get a little worried and danger everything without meaning to, or am afraid endangering things when I am not. I've been damaged in bizarre ways, and that doesn't help... I don't want to become a cat lady, or spend the rest of my days alone, but I am fearful.
I don't know what to do. >~
WHAT SHOULD I DO!!??!!
Iam a 21 year old lady and iam recently dating a guy who is 34,laterally there is a big gab between us. He hs a 13year old son.. My cncern here is whether its really possible for love to exist between me and him. He is way older then me and honestly he might know a lot more about love then me.. We spend good times togather but iam just a fraid that he might leave me for someone of his age.. Please help???