He Needs Space- Is He Leaving?

He starts by saying that awful phrase, “We've got to talk.” Then he mentions that he needs his 'space' for awhile, that it's 'not you, it's him.' After his cliche-heavy speech, he leaves. Leaving you, confused and asking what, exactly, his version of space is. Does it mean he wants a mini-break, a separation, or to break-up and simply go his own way? How can you read between the lines of your man's need for this mysterious, vague space?

There are two possibilities: he genuinely needs his space. Or he's too cowardly to tell you that yes, in fact he IS leaving you. How do you know and what should you do?

He Just Needs Space:

• Some people really do need their space. If he's introverted, or used to being on his own, this is his way of adapting to it. It doesn't mean he doesn't want to come back or that it'll be for a long time. He could just need time for himself, without anyone, to breathe for a moment.

• The length of the relationship comes into play, also. He could be feeling over-whelmed and maybe even suffocated if you've been spending every waking moment together. Or if you've been having problems, he might just want to clear his head and get some perspective from a distance. It doesn't have to be a bad thing, he could just be adjusting or problem-solving.

He Wants To Finish, And Go His Own Way:

• Men absolutely detest conflict with women, they can be cowards when it comes to speaking up if they think the reaction might be in the least emotional- or even hysterical. He could be interested in someone else, especially if you've been having heavy hiccups in your relationship.

What Should You Do?

• It's more like what you shouldn't, under any circumstances, do: panic, get hysterical and relentlessly try to contact him. Becoming a pseudo-stalker isn't going to convince him he was wrong in needing his space. He'll need it more. You'll push him away, and inflate his ego that you're pathetically desperate without him.

• Don't argue with him or try to persuade him to stay. Tell him he's right. That it's a good idea for you both. Take the time apart to think about whether or not you want to be with him, or if it's just an ego-bruise that he's leaving you. Don't take his phone calls or emails. He needs his space? Take yours too, and make good use of the spare time to beautify and enjoy the things you've done less, in order to be with him. Nonetheless, if you can’t think of separation in any of the circumstances, you can best resort to “The Magic of Making Up”, a miraculous guide for couples in trouble that assures back the good times.

• He may come back, he may not. Maybe he just got confused himself and taking space he's decided you're the one. Maybe he panicked and got cold feet. Maybe he's with someone new. But needing his space can backfire. Maybe you've decided you need to go your own way, giving him permanent man-space.

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